Do you have someone that can “ebb & flow” with you?

I just  recently had a simple, yet liberating conversation with someone…

It was so refreshing to note how some people have the gift to ebb and flow with all phases and dimensions of who you are. Sometimes we have a tendency to keep people in the box that we met them in. If you met them in school, then that’s the dynamic you know and regardless of the change in surroundings or dynamics– you expect to get “the intellectual side” of them. If you are a friends “from church” then you only seem to understand their spirituality, usually because it is similar in upbringing or consistent to yours….

Your work colleagues know you as a subject matter expert in a particular field but not as EbbFlow4someone who loves art, theater and music…You may be in a certain vein on Tuesday and flip into another dimension of who you are by Friday. Its not multiple personalities or phoniness…its all you. Its the subtle paradoxes in your life that make you unique. Some may think it to be inconsistent, but I would like to submit that I am “consistently, an ongoing contradiction”. 

….the one that “gets that” about you…the one that can bob and weave with what you bring to the table, even if its different everytime….hold on to them. They are placed in your life to give you a safe place to explore all that you are. They are an invaluable treasure.. They may check you, push you, and frustrate you..but when you turn left, they can hang. When you slip right, they roll right with you…

Regardless to the intensity of the wave, regardless of how quick you may change…THAT person never views you as less than, or judges the flips and flops in your life.  They have the grace on them to accept all of who you are…the contradictions, the paradoxes, the inconsistencies and the things they know for sure. THAT is the foundation of true friendship….just be sure that if someone sows that type of love into you…give it back to them 100 fold.